There is much talk about living a “balanced” life. Work, Home, Kids, Church, Fun, Future…all need to be balanced to live a happy life. Or so it’s been said.
My question is, who is doing this right? And why are we trying. It seems to me that segmenting your life in this way will just lead to frustration. I know this because I live this. I juggle a career or two, family and friends, Church and play and then the other 50 to 100 people, places and things that make the segmentation list.
Then there’s the issue that my wife doesn’t want to be on “a list” of priorities for me. How do you calendarize love? My kids don’t want to know that they are 2nd on a list – ever!
This got me thinking about the difference between balance and being. And “being” always makes me think of God. To be. “I Am.” What a simple statement God makes to Moses. “Just tell them, ‘I Am’.” Now, I’m not God, but I’m made in his image. What would it be like for me to abandon the thought of balance and just think about “being”. It’s not nearly as magnificent and grand as when God says it, but “I am” also. Not a list, but a being.
How do you make this practical, being finite and all that? What if my mindset was that of inclusiveness? How can I integrate my family into my work, my work into my family? What does God look like fully incorporated into everything I do? Just what would happen if I threw out my list and the balancing scales and just “was”? Oh, I’ve still got stuff to “do”, but that isn’t life. That’s stuff. Think about that – do you feel the calmness I do in the idea. “I am.”
We only use 9% of our brains according to the scientists. Could it be because we categorize everything and don’t just open up to the possibilities. Life without walls? Being over balance.
If you are so busy that you can’t even grasp this concept. Walk outside, talk to God for a bit and then ask yourself: “What is so important here?” Stop doing and start being.
Pops Blair, 2007